First Question of the Day!
"How do I know which sororities are the ones I want to consider?"
-every girl i know.
This question is one of the big ones. How can you tell what sororities would be a good fit for you, and which ones you need to take a bathroom break in during ice water? If you know girls a few years older than you at the school you are going to, then they can be a great resource. I tell girls to ask the question "If you couldn't be in your sorority, which other one would you choose?" That way, the girls are less biased. If you ask them which sorority is the best, they will almost always say their own. If you take theirs out of the equation, then you are more likely to get a real answer from them. I honestly would not trust online websites (greek rank, etc) unless you see a trend in posts. Girls love to get on there and vote for their bottom-tier sorority a million times and mess with the rankings.
Also be aware of the differences in campuses. For example, one sorority might be number one at Ole Miss, and dead last at UVA. Make sure you don't go in with preconceived ideas from another campus. It really does change school to school. Another trap is the alum trap. Just because your babysitter was a Chi O at your school 15 years ago and they were awesome back then doesn't mean they are still the same today. Trust your instinct when you walk into a house! If it feels right, then great. If you notice something off, then pay attention to that feeling even if you heard the sorority was awesome.
Stereotypes are another thing to watch out for. Yes, a lot of them are probably true. But make sure you get your information from a credible source (not a girl from another school and not an alum!) before you judge a house to harshly.
Your best bet is to go into the parties with an open mind. If you get to pref night and are torn between two houses, LOOK AT THE PNMS AROUND YOU. THEY will be your potential pledge sisters, not the girls in the room. Yes, they will be your sisters also, but it is your pledge sisters you will have the strongest bond with.
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